Don’t Take This Personally (#195: 2023’03’01’W)

Waaaaitaminit. How many other ways are there to take it?


The lead up to hump day for me relates to an opportunity I was applying for and spent a good bit of time investing in. They declined to make me an offer. They gave me a reason that I wish they’d explored more when we were together. And though they did not use the words, I heard them loud in my big, fat head: ‘Don’t take this personally.’

They’re the words that might come into use when businesses have to make hard decisions to let employees go. They’re also hard to take seriously; especially when ‘employees’ is ‘employee’ and you’re the one. If that sounds like one person venting, it might be true.

How about I toss out the idea of not using language glibly or tritely? And if communication goes in difficult directions, just find better words? Those two challenges go right to the heart of being in community. We do use language and sentiment like ‘How ya doin’?’ more easily than I would prefer.

I’m pretty aware when I use glib and trite language. If you’re around me when I catch myself, you’ll probably see me balk as I seize up inside and start second guessing myself. I’m trying to be a bigger person by becoming more aware of my own practices and making steady improvements. I’m getting there gaffe by gaffe.

That no one’s actually even used those words with me recently tells you a little about my big, fat head; in case you haven’t gotten a sense of it already. As far as the lead up to hump day, if you’re in community with other people who really want to be on the recovery side, maybe do your part to help by engaging them a little bit more deeply than usual.
-CtCloser (Calvinthe), “Negative split or positive splat” #negativesplitorpositivesplat #dothedue

¶Text and photos (unless otherwise stated): Calvin Wang (Wäng), CC BY-NC-SA 4.0. ¶Cross-posted: (1) Facebook JRC Growlers Group Run (2023’03’01’W Run Message), (2) GGR email list, (3) Cerebruns by CtCloser. ¶This website posting: Cerebrun with added caption.


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